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Best Christian Book on "Dating" I've Read

I think the best Christian book I’ve read on singleness/dating/sexuality, to date. Absolutely excellent. ‘Pure’ begins by telling us where purity culture (eg the ‘True Love Waits’ movement) went wrong: the motivation to stay ‘pure’ being for the sake of your future spouse and not out of love for God. Dean Inserra then debunks 7 lies. He writes about the danger of, as a Christian, dating a non-Christian and especially nowadays that sex has become so normalised in secular dating relationships; he emphasises the importance of marriage as a goal and not a ‘oh, maybe we’ll do that someday’; he expounds the Bible’s view on porn, adultery and practising homosexuality (all are sinful) and how cohabitation is undoubtedly wrong for a Christian couple before marriage. What struck me reading this book was the lack of imposing human commands on Inserra’s readers - this is rooted in how he begins the book, criticising forms of purity culture. He simply shares what the Bible has to say about sexuality (particularly in chapter 8, lie number 5 “My Bedroom is My Business”). The gospel is constant, throughout this book. Be counter-cultural.

Lydia